SOBER: Not mad or insane; not wild, visionary, or heated with passion; exercising cool, dispassionate reason; self-controlled; self-possessed. Serious or subdued in demeanor, habit, appearance, or color; solemn; grave; sedate. Dignified and somber in manner or character and committed to keeping promises; “a grave God-fearing man”; “a quiet sedate nature”; “as sober as a judge”; “a solemn promise”; “the judge was solemn as he pronounced sentence. Cause to become sober; “A sobering thought”. Become more realistic; “After thinking about the potential consequences of his plan, he sobered up [1913 Webster].
A very close match to the Idea of Sanity: : 1. The quality or condition of being sane; soundness of mind. 2. Soundness of judgment or reason
(Middle English ‘Sanite = Health’, from Old French,
(From Latin ‘Sanitas”, From ‘Sanus=Healthy)
The Addicts often use the word CLEAN: Which simply means to be free from dirt and disease and negative thinking and all that other stuff that would hinder a good happy healthy life.
The word Sober does not specific mean Stopping Drinking. A person can become intoxicated on passion or power. Any wild excessive emotion can be seen as drunkenness. Sobriety is in its pure essence means “Soundness of Mind”. Sober people are rational and make in general good choices, regardless if they have had a drink or not.
Many people who stop drinking are in fact ‘NOT SOBER’. They still wallow in self pity, they still have ego complexes and power struggles. They still whine and snivel like children and in generally make poor choices. How can Some one who has all these negative destructive qualities be called sober, just because they have not had a drink. The answer is that they “CAN NOT”. Abstinence is the only word that can accurately describe the condition when some one has no alcohol in their blood supply
“Dry Drunk”, is a term often used to describe the abstinent individual.
The act or practice of abstaining; voluntary forbearance of any action, especially the refraining from an indulgence of appetite, or from customary gratifications of animal or sensual propensities. Specifically, the practice of abstaining from intoxicating beverages, — called also total abstinence. [1913 Webster]
The practice of self-denial by depriving one’s self of certain kinds of food or drink, especially of meat. [1913 Webster]
choose no to consume; “I abstain from alcohol”
Many of “”sobriety’s”” best advocates are some of “”sobriety’s”” worst examples.
I do not claim sobriety for myself. I would be lying if I said that I was sound of mind (Sane or Clean) even thou I am Abstinent.. But yet many people lie through their teeth. They claim they are sober because they have not had a drink in 10 years, and go on to do tragically insane things. My friend went to the Casino and lost her Mortgage money ($1400) at the Slots. But she does not drink a drop. Is she Sober? I think not. The money is gone, the mortgage is due.
My hope is that this post has shed some light on the difference between Sobriety, and Abstinence.
A physical body that is clean and sober is a real nice thing to look at.
But the mind the occupies that clean body can be a pure mess.